Sometimes our encounters with others are mirrors of ourselves.
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Their greatest flaw that annoys us is also within …us.
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The lesson that they’re learning is, at its root, the same one we are learning…..or the same lesson that it would serve us to learn.
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Other times though, encounters with others are not mirrors.
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They’re more like business negotiations.
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Whether personal or professional, each person that comes into your life
Shows up with an offer.
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Yes…it’s implicit or, perhaps of the subconscious level, but at the end of the day, it’s an offer.
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The offer always goes something like this, “ This is how capable I am of loving you in this season. This is what me, loving you, would look like. This is the extent of my capacity to love you. Is this a win for you? Are you in?”
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And what we sometimes forget is that we get to choose who we let love us and HOW they go about it.
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So…this means when you are exploring someone’s offer (deciding to do life with them in some capacity),you might find that it’s not a good deal for you.
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You desire for them to love you in a way that is currently outside of their capacity or in a way in which they are not interested.
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The moment you realize this, you, as Divine co-creator, get to enter into a business negotiation (of sorts). You get to teach others how to treat you…how to love you.
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And if your counteroffer is too far beyond their current capacity or desires, you take a final sip of coffee, give a firm handshake and leave with the offer on the table.
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Not everyone you meet will have the capacity to love you in a way that’s a win for you.
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Not everyone will rise to the occasion of your counteroffer and move toward a win-win in which you both work together at loving well.
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Sometimes the most healthy step to take is simply tolerating someone within firm boundaries with the love of the Lord…when loving them and letting them love you is not a win for you.
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At the end of the day, you (and only) are in charge of your emotional currency and how you spend it.
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Spend wisely, friend. You are beyond capable and worthy to co-create the life to which you have been called. ⚔️🧠🤍
